As I work with individual and couples in therapy, I am so aware of how people can judge themselves and one another and often have difficulty with self-compassion and self-acceptance. Even if you are in a couple relationship, the importance and necessity of being able to be oneself is vital to the health of the relationship and the health of oneself. This poem, by Virginia Satir, is a favorite of mine and so clarifies this stance of being authentic and true to yourself. I hope you enjoy it! – Marie
My Declaration of Self-Esteem
I Am Me by Virginia Satir
In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me.
Everything that comes out of me is authentically mine
Because I alone chose it – I own everything about me,
my body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions. Whether they be to others or to myself –
I own my fantasies.
My dreams, my hopes, my fears –
I own all my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes because I own all of me.
I can become intimately acquainted with me – by so doing
I can love me and be friendly with me in all my parts –
I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do not know – but as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and for ways to find out more about me.
However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically me – if later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought and felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that which I discarded –
I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do
I have the tools to survive,
To be close to others,
To be productive,
And to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me –
I own me and therefore I can engineer me –
I am me and I am okay