Deciding to get married is an exciting step in a relationship and it also comes with the reality of a lifetime commitment so addressing the top 5 issues premarital couples face is vital and a premarital workshop, such as Prepare and Enrich can help.
1. Family Dynamics Can Be Tricky and Create Challenges.
Two families merging into one is not always simple. Each partner has grown up with their own set of family norms, expectations, values, and beliefs, which are all engrained in that individual. As well there are extended family members that have their own sets of values and beliefs that can impact the couple – especially around something as special as a wedding or family holiday gatherings. Prepare and Enrich can help address these issues that premarital couples face and help couples navigate these dynamics by opening up a safe space to understand each others backgrounds and points of view.
2. Finances Are A Common Source Of Tension In Relationships.
Money management has often been quoted as one of the greatest challenges in a marriage. Along with our personal values comes expectations about how we spend and save money, as well as, what items are worth spending our money on. Why is money such a sore spot in marriages? People spend a large chunk of their lives investing in their careers to be able to earn money, live the lifestyle they wish to live, and provide for their families. Therefore money can actually be a very personal and powerful force and can be tied to identity and self-purpose. Nowadays people are spending upwards of $31,213 on their wedding (According to the latest study from The Knot, www.theknot.com). For many, the happiest day of their life can actually become a financial burden and take away from the happiness of the event. Prepare and Enrich can help couples understand these issues that premarital couples face, their money management styles and give them the tools and activities to work through creating a budget and discussing their personal views about money.
Like many hot button issues in premarital couples, parenting decisions is another one of the issues premarital couples face and is also very personal. Often people have an idea of what their family will be like based on their own upbringing. Prepare and Enrich can be customized for couples who want children, don’t want children, or already have children. Prepare and Enrich can help couples expand their discussion of their future family by opening up topics such as spiritual beliefs, family values, holiday celebrations, and discipline. Each discussion is customized to what the couple sees as their priority topics.
4. Lifestyle Differences Can Impact A Marriage.
One of the most significant roles of Prepare and Enrich is normalizing behaviors that may feel problematic. Often couples may have concerns about their lifestyle differences, social preferences, time spent together versus apart, or cohabitation issues, for example. This is another one of the issues that premarital couples face and rather than letting these differences or minor arguments pull couples apart, Prepare and Enrich helps create a strong sense of trust and understanding while bringing the two partners closer together.
Planning a wedding can be exciting but also very stressful! Often the way a couple plans a wedding can be indicative of how their marriage will go and is one of the major issues premarital couples face. Therefore, if wedding planning is causing significant stress, then perhaps Prepare and Enrich can help get to the root of the issue before it builds. Setting aside quality time with your partner to explore each other and building a strong foundation for your marriage will keep your relationship strong over time. Learning about ways to stay connected to your partner is vital. Communication and conflict resolution are two large skill components of Prepare and Enrich and building a secure attachment with your partner will help create longevity and happiness in your marriage.
Interested in Prepare and Enrich? Contact our Facilitator, Brittany Beck, MA, (301-960-1198 ext. 707 or firstname.lastname@example.org) for more information or to register! We offer a $50 sixty minute in-person consultation prior to committing to the program! The program can also be customized more specifically to fit your lifestyle!